I hope you are having a lovely Wednesday!
I wanted to write a blog post about something that I have noticed occurring for far to long and far to often in our culture and that is shamming.
Pretty much I have noticed (and I know I’m not the only one) that most specifically in America, through the help of the media and the internet, we have created this weird virus that has infected many of our citizens in which we openly judge, bash, criticize, threaten, and sham many people for being different and expressing themselves in a way that some may find strange, degrading, or inappropriate. For Example: Miley Cyrus, Duke University Student Porn Star, LGBT community, and every single public figure pretty figure.
As one of my New Year’s Resolutions I decided that I was going to be less judgmental and listen before I take a side on an issue. Hear the other side of a situation before I make up my mind about a matter. Well I have thought long and hard about this one and I have concluded that many Americans whether it be online or in person, are constantly judging others and telling men and women how they should behave and live their lives. It honestly makes me sick.
Anytime a public figure or just the average joe does something different, artistic, creative, or just out of the ordinary it seems like every talk show has to make it their feature segment that day and shame and criticize that person for making a mistake. It happens ever single day and all of a sudden the general public has this opinion about someone they don’t even know. It really diminishes creativity because many people feel scared to express who they are for fear of later being mocked.
I don’t blame the public so much as I blame the media for this. The media exploits these people very often so that they can gain a larger audience and make more money. It is so gross and has created this absolutely sickening group think generation of people who judge, mock, shame, and criticize others for living their lives, being creative, trying new things, making mistakes, and choosing to be different opposed to fit into this cookie cutter mold of how a large majority of the America audience thinks a twenty something should behave.
I applaud those who are brave enough to wave their freak flag and shout from the rooftops, “I’m a weirdo, here me roar.” We need more of those people.
Why do we need to follow these rules of how to be and behave? Because it makes the moms of America comfortable? Because otherwise people will think you’re a slut? One of the worst parts is that those who chose to criticize others often act as though they have never made a mistake in their lives. Time and time again I see and hear comments from men and women on television and online talking complete trash about whomever is the hot topic at the moment as though they themselves have never once done anything taboo.
This happens more often with women, in my opinion, than with men. Women judge the shit out of other women. Constantly. They judge another women by whats she’s wear, her weight, her job, her spouse, her friends, her children, her everything. They may not even know this women but pick at every detail of her life until their is nothing left.
It absolutely has to stop. The bashing and criticism only divides us. We drift further and further away from unity as a nation with every media sponsored public shaming of a pop star, porn star, politician, or pupil. It will end when people one by one decide to take responsibility for the things they say and realize that those that they are judging are humans and trying new things, making mistakes, and simply just being themselves.
I encourage everyone to try to do a little less judging and a little more loving. One of my favorite Youtubers Tanya Burr posted a tweet yesterday that really spoke to me. She wrote, “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” Everyone is just trying to figure out what they are doing with their lives on their own and it makes it a hell of a lot harder when people they don’t even know bash them for doing things a little differently. Why not just let people figure it out on their own and go about your day?
I am as liberal as they come. I believe that people should be allowed to do whatever they want as long as they are not hurting themselves or anyone else. You of course do not have to agree with me or even come close to believing what I believe in but I invite everyone to take a step back and have a more open mind. Just because someone would rather dress more sexual than causal, or chooses to do porn opposed to work in an office, or is attracted to someone of the same sex opposed to the opposite sex does not mean that they are evil or any less human than anyone else.
(I do realize that this has become random rant and in some areas I am judging a group of the population but that is for the greater good and some pieces of this argument do make sense and hopefully will help at least one person).
Let’s work together to create a more loving and open minded planet for everyone by simply just being a little more kind and accepting and not letting the media seduce you with their one sided propaganda. Decide for yourself.